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Why You Shouldn’t Fall For ‘Clinically Proven’ Beauty Products
This article dives into a frustrating reality that many of us might not fully grasp: the language of "clinically proven" and "science-backed" beauty products is often nothing more than a marketing strategy. These terms, which should inspire confidence, are largely unregulated and can be misleading. The idea that a product has undergone rigorous scientific testing is often a stretch, with brands sometimes applying these labels based on minimal or biased evidence. What's even more concerning is how this pseudo-scientific language perpetuates unattainable beauty standards. We're being told that natural features like pores, wrinkles, and skin texture are problems to be fixed, when in fact, they’re just part of being human. The medicalization of these normal traits, framed as issues that need scientific intervention, contributes to an unrealistic and often harmful beauty ideal.
It’s kind of infuriating to see how easily these claims can manipulate consumer perceptions, making us believe we need solutions for things that aren’t even problems. This kind of science-washing not only undermines our trust but also fuels a cycle of anxiety and dissatisfaction with our appearance! Ugh.
The iPhone Is Now an AI Trojan Horse (no paywall link here!)
Apple’s latest foray into generative AI isn’t just a technological leap; it’s a subtle yet seismic shift in the relationship between humans and their devices. Apple has always marketed itself as the guardian of privacy, the steward of user trust. But with the integration of AI, this relationship begins to feel more transactional, more surveilled, more like a subtle negotiation of control between user autonomy and corporate interest.
On the surface, these AI tools seem benign, even helpful—smoothing out the rough edges of our hectic lives, making the overwhelming manageable. But there’s an unsettling undercurrent here, one that suggests that as these tools become more embedded in our daily routines, our dependence on them deepens, often without our explicit consent or awareness.
Snapchat Is a Minefield for Teen Friendships (no paywall link here!)
The platform, which started as a simple way to share fleeting moments, has evolved into a complex web where friendships are not only maintained but measured, ranked, and often strained. The gamification of relationships — through streaks, friend ranks, and pins — turns what should be organic connections into something more like a competitive sport. It becomes not just about staying in touch; but about staying on top. The idea that friendships can be quantified and displayed publicly creates an environment ripe for insecurity, jealousy, and ultimately, alienation. It’s sad.
Should We Think of our Children as Strangers? (no paywall link here!)
A fascinating read, especially for someone like me who thinks about parenting a surprising amount for someone who doesn’t see it on the immediate horizon. Rothman’s exploration of the inherent duality of parenting—where parents intimately know their children yet must also recognize them as independent beings—really resonates with me. It highlights a tension that feels deeply human: the desire to nurture and protect, balanced against the need to allow space for individuality and growth. The article also dives into the ethical frameworks proposed by philosophers Harry Brighouse and Adam Swift, who argue that parenting should be understood not as ownership but as a responsibility to provide a good upbringing. This perspective, suggesting that while parents have a role in guiding their children, they must also respect their children's growing autonomy, strikes me as both challenging and necessary.
It makes me wonder about the ways in which we all—parents or not—navigate relationships that require a balance between closeness and independence. Maybe the healthiest relationships, whether between parent and child or between friends, are those where we allow each other the freedom to grow into who we are meant to be, without trying to mold each other into versions that fit our own needs or expectations.
How Lonely Planet Founders Tony and Maureen Wheeler Revolutionized the Way We Travel
This is a story of how two people, driven by the spirit of discovery, created a blueprint for others to follow. Their legacy isn’t just in the guidebooks they published, but in how they democratized travel, making it accessible to those who, like them, yearned to explore but weren’t content with the sanitized, curated experiences that traditional tourism offered. Lovely, as a travel enthusiast myself.
‘Why Won’t My Boyfriend Post Me on Instagram?’ (no paywall link here!)
The dilemma the letter-writer faces isn’t just about Instagram—it’s about what the platform represents in the context of their relationship. Social media has become a public stage where love, commitment, and belonging are displayed, and the absence of a partner in this digital space can feel like a glaring omission.
What stands out in this article is Gould’s nuanced approach to the issue. She acknowledges the writer's feelings without dismissing them as superficial, recognizing that in today’s world, the way we present our relationships online does carry weight. Gould doesn’t simply side with the writer or the boyfriend; instead, she dives deeper into why this situation feels so fraught, exploring how social media has complicated the ways we express love and affection.
The most powerful insight from Gould’s response is her acknowledgment that “Instagram isn’t a meaningless frivolity in either of your lives, even though we’d all prefer to think of it that way.” This line cuts to the core of why the writer feels hurt—it’s not about the app itself, but about what it symbolizes: recognition, validation, and the public affirmation of love.
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