"emotions are shy creatures; they retreat when they sense they're being watched too closely." Lovely! You have such a beautiful way with your thoughts and words.
Wow this singlehandedly rewired my brain chemistry lol. As a chronic overthinker, embracing uncertainty is definitely not my first choice - but maybe that’s what has been missing all along: trusting in the unknown and befriending uncertainty is where all the magic happens
I don't mean to sound negative but hinge is possibly the worst dating app in the history of the universe.
The advice is well intentioned and overall I understand where this author is coming from but something about this post being sponsored by a dating app makes me ... distrustful.
Everything has been turned into over optimization & moreover as you said meta monitoring. When ever we are over emphasizing about the tiniest of things and the process, the moment is getting lost and in hindsight we see we were too bothered/consumed that we even didn't experience it. As Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi talked about Flow but this polar opposite to flow as we are no immersed in the experience. And talk about advice, you get it from everyone if you don't want one which hampers if you are not totally self aware of what you really want and then kicks in the impostor syndrome which keep whispering you don't know much, ask to someone who has experience in this domain/field/walk of life. And then there is mixed bag of things what people tell us, what we want and then we second guess about our choices as we don't really know and then the ruckus gets created mostly in the mind.
I think what you're alluding to is the need to be genuinely comfortable and confident in yourself.
We all do this overanalyzing to an extent but I've found what worked best for me is being comfortable in my skin. That led to going in with a curiosity mindset on dates as you mentioned.
"emotions are shy creatures; they retreat when they sense they're being watched too closely." Lovely! You have such a beautiful way with your thoughts and words.
Wow this singlehandedly rewired my brain chemistry lol. As a chronic overthinker, embracing uncertainty is definitely not my first choice - but maybe that’s what has been missing all along: trusting in the unknown and befriending uncertainty is where all the magic happens
You're so brilliant! The way you compare concepts and convey the message hit all the right spots. Soooo satisfying to read.
I will reread this a million times
Hinge does not deserve this masterpiece
I don't mean to sound negative but hinge is possibly the worst dating app in the history of the universe.
The advice is well intentioned and overall I understand where this author is coming from but something about this post being sponsored by a dating app makes me ... distrustful.
Everything has been turned into over optimization & moreover as you said meta monitoring. When ever we are over emphasizing about the tiniest of things and the process, the moment is getting lost and in hindsight we see we were too bothered/consumed that we even didn't experience it. As Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi talked about Flow but this polar opposite to flow as we are no immersed in the experience. And talk about advice, you get it from everyone if you don't want one which hampers if you are not totally self aware of what you really want and then kicks in the impostor syndrome which keep whispering you don't know much, ask to someone who has experience in this domain/field/walk of life. And then there is mixed bag of things what people tell us, what we want and then we second guess about our choices as we don't really know and then the ruckus gets created mostly in the mind.
I think what you're alluding to is the need to be genuinely comfortable and confident in yourself.
We all do this overanalyzing to an extent but I've found what worked best for me is being comfortable in my skin. That led to going in with a curiosity mindset on dates as you mentioned.
No expectations just genuine presence :)