What a coincidence that he is Ukrainian as the most of the OF "creators". Now that the war has eliminated a good chunk of Ukrainian male population, the sky is the limit for the profit of this (non)middleman
completely disagree. The bulk of the rage or distaste against onlyfans is not due to women having control over own commodification of sexuality or that men simultaneously feel like they have a connection with the model and feeling like just an analytic on someone's screen. The men raging against onlyfans are NOT the users. NO. the rage is due to the underlying cause beneath this symptom of onlyfans, that is the broken state of the modern man. The modern man has become fragile, hollow, purposeless and lonely, so broken that he agrees to pay to see some pixels on his screen that can make him feel less lonely, loved, wanted. Pornstars and onlyfans models exploit this exact broken state of men, the models earn money, while the men just sink deeper in their delusional state, become even more weak. This is what the rage is about. onlyfans' and pornhub's billions is a symptom of the epidemic of the broken men.
They've always been crazy. Women can just get their own bank accounts now, and they're reeling.
Btw, I think these men are mad at themselves because they cannot control their irrational impulses. What kind of idiot pays for pics or texts or whatever it is from somebody online who they'll never see? A rational, logical male?
They should be mad at themselves. But they would never admit that.
If you think paying for articles about news, history, educational topics, etc. is the same thing or even comparable to paying for pictures from women who sell pornography online because these men think they actually have a chance with them in real life or something, then thank you for proving my point about male irrationality, stupidity, and lack of shame.
I gave you a rational reply. Articles on worthy, educational topics have no connection to pornography. The fact that you think that it does shows that males lack self-awareness and cannot think logically when it comes to their own stupid behavior.
This is the origin of literally every problem on the planet.
Truth isn't toxic. Learn how to argue or just go play video games.
look what happened in America when 76% of registered white women were allowed to vote: The end of American liberal democracy and nothing positive for women of any colour. In the next few months a woman in a certain red state might risk execution for seeking out an abortion. I assume your comments are meant to be satirical.
nondual already touched on this above, but I believe much of feminist academic literature has focused so much on male ego and it’s consequences that it fails to realise the profound shift we are experiencing as a society. Mainly, the female ego becoming the dominant influence on the ordering of our social structures. When women are given the platform of power, held predominantly by men, many of the same abuses of this power manifest and create substantial inequality of outcomes. You need only look to the prominent industries in America (media, politics, academia) to see how the influx of women into positions of power is replicating much of the gender bias thought previously only to be something done by men. The difference is, rather than these inequalities being addressed by a feminised social order, they are held up as a successful takedown of the nebulous ‘patriarchy’. Male desire, rather than being valuable in itself, is seen as just one more obstacle to female liberation that must be torn down and suppressed. When discontent is prefigured as evidence of an internalised misogyny, men are left no real path to expression that isn’t seen as a threat to feminine identity. True, OnlyFans is a technological salve over the wounded male ego, but a healthy ego shouldn’t be something only one side of the sex equation can enjoy.
Oh I like this. In the case of the pimps discussed in the article. They harvested male desire through the women they used. Now without the middleman the women are just doing it themselves. The men being harvested never changed. Just those in charge of the power structure did.
LOL "When women are given the platform of power, held predominantly by men, many of the same abuses of this power manifest and create substantial inequality of outcomes."
Oh yeah, that's why Finland and Iceland become literally like Afghanistan or China, boys are married off at 11 to abusive 50 year old women, male fetuses are mass aborted, and everything goes to shit.
Males literally lack the ability to see their stupid behavior and feel shame at it.
A woman saying NO to them is the exact same thing as a male starting WWIII and raping children.
Thank you for proving my point. You have no ability to see and function in the real world, and that is why males destroy everything they touch.
This kind of condescending dismissal is exactly the point I am trying to make. Instead of my opinion being valued as part of a conversation, adding my thoughts because I want to respectfully engage with the authors writing after enjoying their article, you reduce it to an attack on women. If you are reading my comments in the voice of some sort of pompous blowhard, I think that says a great deal more about your feelings towards men than it does mine about women.
Thanks August, I’m glad you added this perspective because it is very relevant. My question would be, How can we tell the difference between petty misogyny/misandry and general rudeness? Since we don’t have access to people’s minds in any direct sense, we can’t. Unless someone’s explanation for mistreatment is “because you are a man/woman”, we can only assume based off instinct and observation that the person is discriminating against them.
Women don't pass laws to force men into their homes because school bans them (they're bad enough at school alone) or force 11 year old boys to marry 50 year old women.
You don't have a clear enough understanding of world history, legal history, or religious history to speak on this.
You think because women have gotten the right to their own bank account only recently, that has any parallelism to what men have done for centuries. And that includes getting turned down because men are unfuckable losers who fund things like OnlyFans with their lack of impulse control.
You make a good point about ‘not throwing out the baby with the bath water’ when it comes to recognising discrimination against men while also acknowledging that women really do experience sexism at collective and individual levels, and this shouldn’t be forgotten or ignored.
The solution for this shouldn’t be to replace those issues by inversion though.
If all men are seen as the problem, a class of people is created that are guilty only by nature of existing.
I agree that it would be naive to assume that others always want what is in our best interests, but wouldn’t it be equally as erroneous to assume the opposite?
I am always incredibly suspicious of assigning individuals the responsibilities of a group they belong to only by virtue of a superficial classification i.e. race, gender, class. That isn’t to say that there aren’t some inherent truths related to those classifications, but when we try to lay the actions of a few at the feet of the many we risk maiming the very justice that we are seeking to carry out. Is a man or woman not responsible for their actions and theirs alone?
Romance novels are a multi billion dollar industry. This isn’t a man vs woman thing. It’s human nature. People like to fantasize. They just do it in different ways 🤷🏻♂️
Men watch hours of violent pornography, troon out, shoot up kindergartens, and then insist that they’re super-logical and not emotional.
It’s a man vs woman thing because it always is, and that is what males had no problem saying for thousands of years and still do. Go tell the Taliban about your amazing ideas.
More women watch violent porn than men. Rape is the number 1 porn genre among women. It’s lower than 10 for men.
Everything can be traced back to the fact that women are way more shallow, elitist and find fewer men physically attractive. Not because men are horny savages and women aren’t.
Inventing retarded statistics in your head won't change the fact that you're ugly and unfuckable, so you can stop wasting your time.
The number of ugly, waste of skin men who think doing this will change the fact that they're going to die alone is actually hilarious.
No one cares that you're a fat, disgusting pig. Get off the computer and get your fat ass to a gym. Women owe you nothing.
Btw, you didn't answer the question, probably because you're a Paki.
Go talk to the Paki rape gangs in the UK who target white girls because they know the police will cover for them because they're petrified of being called racist.
Tell them your amazing ideas, then you can join in on the rapes. Oh, then go to talk to the Taliban. Third world males have great reputations lol. Fuck off.
Why are you feeling so defensive about the fact that men face way more pressure to be good looking than women to have sexual options? It is what it is, who’s talking about entitlement?
Very well written, however, I think the rage lies more on the income inequality factor rather than wanting to control women. Just as I am enraged at seeing a CEO take home millions of dollars yearly, I am also enraged looking at top OF models make more in a week than most Americans would in a year(an OF model is probably much more hardworking than a CEO). I also think it’s not just men who are angry at this, it’s other women as well. You have to be a certain type of conventionally attractive woman to be successful doing OF and this unfairness is what makes people enraged as well. Most working women can’t just quit their job one day and start posting nudes online as they know that they probably wouldn’t be anywhere near as successful. There is an inherent unfairness in the OF industry which is what makes people angry.
Well that’s what’s unfair about it isn’t it? If you’re born conventionally attractive then you have an advantage in the industry over other girls who might not be as attractive.
Really well written! Shocked reading some of these very aggressive comments. Nevertheless, you make a strong case whether it's subjecively true or not is for everyone to decide. I do find the dynamic you depict between males needing to prove worth and females born worthy very interesting. Very black and white ofcourse, but still some food for thought. When looking around at close (girl)friends, I wouldn't necessarily say that they see themselves as automatically worthy.
While writing this comment, I came up with something. Maybe females are seen as intrinsically valuable by the males who see themselves as worthless before they have proved themselves. Perpahs also very black/white thinking, but it's interesting perhaps.
Anyway, loved reading it! Very well structured and I love your writing voice.
I’m a s worker & this is a great article. Men r very mad they can’t sell the same thing. Not sure why. I don’t get mad I can’t sell my physical labor of lifting heavy things at a job that requires that for example like they can.
I have no idea why you wrote that. Do you understand what I wrote and agree, or do you not understand what I wrote by continuing to ask questions that have already been answered?
It’s funny bc desirability discourse is pretty universally accepted and cut and dry when it’s the male/female parameter but as soon as you get on the female side of the desirability equation then suddenly it becomes this extremely contentious rubric of desirability where size, weight, looks, race and other superficial criteria become some sort of weird moral metric. Be interesting to see what the high earners look like from a objective / physical standpoint.
If there are no ways to feel desirable (and to feel good in general) other than overt sexual attractiveness, then this seems like a personal problem, and not a mechanical fact of male behavior, to be (un)resolved by paying for OF, no?
Amazing article which I’ll come back to from time to time. Loved the perspective you brought, thank you for opening another window on this social construct.
The analysis seems off to me. Pickup artists were talking about this stuff back in the 2000s, before smartphones or only fans. My recollection was that they called this a man’s “burden of performance”, or something like that. But they talked a lot about how women for the most part don’t actually desire most men at all. I would also guess that men aren’t upset with women earning money from sex work, but rather that they believe that women are earning both status and money through sex work. It’s the status thing that seems new to me, not the sex work. Maybe by making sex work safer, or making it so that sex workers don’t have to physically interact or have sex with men, it has raised the status of the women engaging in sex work? Because, from what I have read, a lot of sex workers feel degraded by their work when it is in the flesh (probably because degradation is a part of what many of their customers want). So now instead of men being able to pity/hate sex workers because they worked a dangerous job where they were constantly threatened and degraded, successful only fans creators can a live a nice lifestyle and don’t have to feel shame at how they earn their money. I suspect that what’s behind a lot of this is men feeling ashamed or inferior, and that if they didn’t already feel that way, they wouldn’t be upset about only fans.
Men are in the scheme. They are only pretending to believe the onlyfans provider is choosing them. The inauthentic relationship is known, felt, and not satisfying as the real thing. Men are not losing power in the world because onlyfans does not compare to a person giving you physical affection. It doesn’t make physical spaces irrelevant.
Women have definitely gained leverage with onlyfans, but only monetarily.
Bell Hooks’ premise falls apart knowing that existence encompasses more than just sexual dynamics. The existential crisis comes for everyone and not just men. This is because it speaks to our reason for being alive. Our existence is certainly not just for sexual appeal alone. We are not sex machines.
There is an issue with loneliness and lack of intimacy, but that applies to both genders. Yes, onlyfans gives that parasocial endorphin rush that fills in that need superficially. Onlyfans does not signify that men are not intrinsically valued or not sexually valued by appearance. Our sexuality was never defined by our desire for women or our male gaze. Women are certainly not just valued for their appearance, as much as it seems that way. Women dominating onlyfans is because women have explored their sexual identity
Men not having beauty by just existing is a false narrative. Men are certainly attractive to a lot of people. They have sexual attraction they can sell. Men can certainly make an onlyfans and create revenue. They can become just as prominent as women, but only when they cater to how women are satisfied erotically. It’s just a gap in the market.
The reason this gap exists is because men haven’t explored their sexual identity as well as women have. This all comes down to cultural upbringings of men. Erotic attraction is thought to only belong to women. That boundary is a socially constructed one. Men suppressing emotions to meet society’s standards stops us from discovering our sexual identity. Once a man can accept their erotic attractiveness through an exploration of their emotions and values can they show their sexual attraction and sell it if they want to.
I’ve said this in another comment but it bears repeating, Every person just existing has value.
Onlyfans does offer a simulation of being chosen, but in the real world people are chosen because of their values not their sexual appeal.
"The platform has eliminated the middleman."
Oh? Who's getting the $1.3 billion dollars difference between the previously cited $6.6B "user spending" and $5.3B "paid to creators" figures?
true, it was founded by Timothy Stokely and is now owned by billionaire Leonid Radvinsky https://www.forbes.com/profile/leonid-radvinsky/ it’s parent company is Fenix International Ltd
His name is Leonid Radvinsky, the owner of OnlyFans.
https://fortune.com/2024/09/06/onlyfans-owner-1-billion-dividends-2021-three-years-leonid-radvinsky/
What a coincidence that he is Ukrainian as the most of the OF "creators". Now that the war has eliminated a good chunk of Ukrainian male population, the sky is the limit for the profit of this (non)middleman
completely disagree. The bulk of the rage or distaste against onlyfans is not due to women having control over own commodification of sexuality or that men simultaneously feel like they have a connection with the model and feeling like just an analytic on someone's screen. The men raging against onlyfans are NOT the users. NO. the rage is due to the underlying cause beneath this symptom of onlyfans, that is the broken state of the modern man. The modern man has become fragile, hollow, purposeless and lonely, so broken that he agrees to pay to see some pixels on his screen that can make him feel less lonely, loved, wanted. Pornstars and onlyfans models exploit this exact broken state of men, the models earn money, while the men just sink deeper in their delusional state, become even more weak. This is what the rage is about. onlyfans' and pornhub's billions is a symptom of the epidemic of the broken men.
Men have always been broken & hollow. Now women aren’t forced to be around them anymore tho- and they notice that.
They've always been crazy. Women can just get their own bank accounts now, and they're reeling.
Btw, I think these men are mad at themselves because they cannot control their irrational impulses. What kind of idiot pays for pics or texts or whatever it is from somebody online who they'll never see? A rational, logical male?
They should be mad at themselves. But they would never admit that.
Wow so true. They prob do resent their addiction to women.
What kind of idiot pays for pics or texts or whatever it is from somebody online who they'll never see?
Obviously they pay on substack. For a different kind of desire to be fulfilled.
If you think paying for articles about news, history, educational topics, etc. is the same thing or even comparable to paying for pictures from women who sell pornography online because these men think they actually have a chance with them in real life or something, then thank you for proving my point about male irrationality, stupidity, and lack of shame.
Men shouldn't be allowed to vote.
OK, mine was deliberately provocative, but maybe still worth a rational reply. Yours just shows me that substack is becoming a toxic place, too.
I gave you a rational reply. Articles on worthy, educational topics have no connection to pornography. The fact that you think that it does shows that males lack self-awareness and cannot think logically when it comes to their own stupid behavior.
This is the origin of literally every problem on the planet.
Truth isn't toxic. Learn how to argue or just go play video games.
look what happened in America when 76% of registered white women were allowed to vote: The end of American liberal democracy and nothing positive for women of any colour. In the next few months a woman in a certain red state might risk execution for seeking out an abortion. I assume your comments are meant to be satirical.
If that’s how you see men you should take a look in the mirror.
#notallmen
Read my article on godly masculinity if that's how you really feel and are just blowing smoke.
You know, I read comments like this and feel bad for your mother.
Great comeback.
Women aren’t celibate. Who are they having sex with?
nondual already touched on this above, but I believe much of feminist academic literature has focused so much on male ego and it’s consequences that it fails to realise the profound shift we are experiencing as a society. Mainly, the female ego becoming the dominant influence on the ordering of our social structures. When women are given the platform of power, held predominantly by men, many of the same abuses of this power manifest and create substantial inequality of outcomes. You need only look to the prominent industries in America (media, politics, academia) to see how the influx of women into positions of power is replicating much of the gender bias thought previously only to be something done by men. The difference is, rather than these inequalities being addressed by a feminised social order, they are held up as a successful takedown of the nebulous ‘patriarchy’. Male desire, rather than being valuable in itself, is seen as just one more obstacle to female liberation that must be torn down and suppressed. When discontent is prefigured as evidence of an internalised misogyny, men are left no real path to expression that isn’t seen as a threat to feminine identity. True, OnlyFans is a technological salve over the wounded male ego, but a healthy ego shouldn’t be something only one side of the sex equation can enjoy.
Oh I like this. In the case of the pimps discussed in the article. They harvested male desire through the women they used. Now without the middleman the women are just doing it themselves. The men being harvested never changed. Just those in charge of the power structure did.
LOL "When women are given the platform of power, held predominantly by men, many of the same abuses of this power manifest and create substantial inequality of outcomes."
Oh yeah, that's why Finland and Iceland become literally like Afghanistan or China, boys are married off at 11 to abusive 50 year old women, male fetuses are mass aborted, and everything goes to shit.
Males literally lack the ability to see their stupid behavior and feel shame at it.
A woman saying NO to them is the exact same thing as a male starting WWIII and raping children.
Thank you for proving my point. You have no ability to see and function in the real world, and that is why males destroy everything they touch.
Spot on, well said.
This kind of condescending dismissal is exactly the point I am trying to make. Instead of my opinion being valued as part of a conversation, adding my thoughts because I want to respectfully engage with the authors writing after enjoying their article, you reduce it to an attack on women. If you are reading my comments in the voice of some sort of pompous blowhard, I think that says a great deal more about your feelings towards men than it does mine about women.
His perspective is irrational.
He thinks because he can't get laid, women are just as bad as man because a woman saying NO is worse than the Taliban.
That is male thinking distilled into its purest form. That is why they start WWIII and feel no shame.
Thanks August, I’m glad you added this perspective because it is very relevant. My question would be, How can we tell the difference between petty misogyny/misandry and general rudeness? Since we don’t have access to people’s minds in any direct sense, we can’t. Unless someone’s explanation for mistreatment is “because you are a man/woman”, we can only assume based off instinct and observation that the person is discriminating against them.
There's no such thing as misandry.
Women don't pass laws to force men into their homes because school bans them (they're bad enough at school alone) or force 11 year old boys to marry 50 year old women.
You don't have a clear enough understanding of world history, legal history, or religious history to speak on this.
You think because women have gotten the right to their own bank account only recently, that has any parallelism to what men have done for centuries. And that includes getting turned down because men are unfuckable losers who fund things like OnlyFans with their lack of impulse control.
Thanks for proving my point.
One exists, one doesn't.
Go talk to the Taliban about your amazing ideas.
Go have a conversation with the Taliban.
I bet if you asked those moids, they would say they’re the real victims and misandry is out of control.
You make a good point about ‘not throwing out the baby with the bath water’ when it comes to recognising discrimination against men while also acknowledging that women really do experience sexism at collective and individual levels, and this shouldn’t be forgotten or ignored.
The solution for this shouldn’t be to replace those issues by inversion though.
If all men are seen as the problem, a class of people is created that are guilty only by nature of existing.
I agree that it would be naive to assume that others always want what is in our best interests, but wouldn’t it be equally as erroneous to assume the opposite?
I am always incredibly suspicious of assigning individuals the responsibilities of a group they belong to only by virtue of a superficial classification i.e. race, gender, class. That isn’t to say that there aren’t some inherent truths related to those classifications, but when we try to lay the actions of a few at the feet of the many we risk maiming the very justice that we are seeking to carry out. Is a man or woman not responsible for their actions and theirs alone?
Women's struggles are more important because ours are real.
Men not being able to get laid and paying randoms on the internet for naked pictures is not a real struggle.
You both needs jobs. Men were meant for work, not acting stupid online.
I think the saddest thing is that BOTH genders seem to be missing out on genuine connection. Not just men.
Women aren't the ones paying billions for pics on the internet. Men are the ones who are 78% of Tinder.
Don't try to "both sides" this.
Romance novels are a multi billion dollar industry. This isn’t a man vs woman thing. It’s human nature. People like to fantasize. They just do it in different ways 🤷🏻♂️
Women read books.
Men watch hours of violent pornography, troon out, shoot up kindergartens, and then insist that they’re super-logical and not emotional.
It’s a man vs woman thing because it always is, and that is what males had no problem saying for thousands of years and still do. Go tell the Taliban about your amazing ideas.
Run along.
Women aren’t celibate. Who are they having sex with?
You observe "gender relations"?
What's gender? Define it.
Btw, are you a Paki?
More women watch violent porn than men. Rape is the number 1 porn genre among women. It’s lower than 10 for men.
Everything can be traced back to the fact that women are way more shallow, elitist and find fewer men physically attractive. Not because men are horny savages and women aren’t.
Bullshit.
Inventing retarded statistics in your head won't change the fact that you're ugly and unfuckable, so you can stop wasting your time.
The number of ugly, waste of skin men who think doing this will change the fact that they're going to die alone is actually hilarious.
No one cares that you're a fat, disgusting pig. Get off the computer and get your fat ass to a gym. Women owe you nothing.
Btw, you didn't answer the question, probably because you're a Paki.
Go talk to the Paki rape gangs in the UK who target white girls because they know the police will cover for them because they're petrified of being called racist.
Tell them your amazing ideas, then you can join in on the rapes. Oh, then go to talk to the Taliban. Third world males have great reputations lol. Fuck off.
Ugly, obese women get laid left and right.
Why are you feeling so defensive about the fact that men face way more pressure to be good looking than women to have sexual options? It is what it is, who’s talking about entitlement?
Women don’t go on shooting sprees because they can’t get laid, and then insist that they’re super logical and not emotional.
That’s men. They’re the problem. That’s the difference.
Go talk to the Taliban about your ideas.
We don't need and desire each other. Males are 78% of Tinder. It's not 50/50 for a reason.
broo shooting sprees are litch the confluence of emotion and logic
so eloquently written and introspective.
Very well written, however, I think the rage lies more on the income inequality factor rather than wanting to control women. Just as I am enraged at seeing a CEO take home millions of dollars yearly, I am also enraged looking at top OF models make more in a week than most Americans would in a year(an OF model is probably much more hardworking than a CEO). I also think it’s not just men who are angry at this, it’s other women as well. You have to be a certain type of conventionally attractive woman to be successful doing OF and this unfairness is what makes people enraged as well. Most working women can’t just quit their job one day and start posting nudes online as they know that they probably wouldn’t be anywhere near as successful. There is an inherent unfairness in the OF industry which is what makes people angry.
Is this phenomenon truly unfair? The capital is allocated to, understandably, the most conventionally attractive. How else should it be?
Well that’s what’s unfair about it isn’t it? If you’re born conventionally attractive then you have an advantage in the industry over other girls who might not be as attractive.
I absolutely loved this. How only fans has made hope a perpetual commodity. I will be quoting this article from time to time
Really well written! Shocked reading some of these very aggressive comments. Nevertheless, you make a strong case whether it's subjecively true or not is for everyone to decide. I do find the dynamic you depict between males needing to prove worth and females born worthy very interesting. Very black and white ofcourse, but still some food for thought. When looking around at close (girl)friends, I wouldn't necessarily say that they see themselves as automatically worthy.
While writing this comment, I came up with something. Maybe females are seen as intrinsically valuable by the males who see themselves as worthless before they have proved themselves. Perpahs also very black/white thinking, but it's interesting perhaps.
Anyway, loved reading it! Very well structured and I love your writing voice.
I’m a s worker & this is a great article. Men r very mad they can’t sell the same thing. Not sure why. I don’t get mad I can’t sell my physical labor of lifting heavy things at a job that requires that for example like they can.
Because one is hard work for little money and one is no work for a lot of money?
Quite strange and autistic to say there is an equivalence there
So you don’t desire sex? Who are the men you have sex with?
Exactly. So why r they being sore losers?
I have no idea why you wrote that. Do you understand what I wrote and agree, or do you not understand what I wrote by continuing to ask questions that have already been answered?
You’re giving man vibes. No good ones
Ok, don't engage in bad faith, and then when someone gets annoyed, defer to their "man vibes." Like come on, seriously.
im sorry this whole interaction is so hilarious to me
It’s funny bc desirability discourse is pretty universally accepted and cut and dry when it’s the male/female parameter but as soon as you get on the female side of the desirability equation then suddenly it becomes this extremely contentious rubric of desirability where size, weight, looks, race and other superficial criteria become some sort of weird moral metric. Be interesting to see what the high earners look like from a objective / physical standpoint.
If there are no ways to feel desirable (and to feel good in general) other than overt sexual attractiveness, then this seems like a personal problem, and not a mechanical fact of male behavior, to be (un)resolved by paying for OF, no?
Amazing article which I’ll come back to from time to time. Loved the perspective you brought, thank you for opening another window on this social construct.
How can you not be concerned for the men in your lives? They are after a man’s dignity and self respect. Your son is next.
No woman cares about any man. Just accept it
The analysis seems off to me. Pickup artists were talking about this stuff back in the 2000s, before smartphones or only fans. My recollection was that they called this a man’s “burden of performance”, or something like that. But they talked a lot about how women for the most part don’t actually desire most men at all. I would also guess that men aren’t upset with women earning money from sex work, but rather that they believe that women are earning both status and money through sex work. It’s the status thing that seems new to me, not the sex work. Maybe by making sex work safer, or making it so that sex workers don’t have to physically interact or have sex with men, it has raised the status of the women engaging in sex work? Because, from what I have read, a lot of sex workers feel degraded by their work when it is in the flesh (probably because degradation is a part of what many of their customers want). So now instead of men being able to pity/hate sex workers because they worked a dangerous job where they were constantly threatened and degraded, successful only fans creators can a live a nice lifestyle and don’t have to feel shame at how they earn their money. I suspect that what’s behind a lot of this is men feeling ashamed or inferior, and that if they didn’t already feel that way, they wouldn’t be upset about only fans.
Why don't you just call it prostitution? That's what it is. Letting some women dictate your language is inherently sad and cucked.
Great writing
Absolute banger
Men are in the scheme. They are only pretending to believe the onlyfans provider is choosing them. The inauthentic relationship is known, felt, and not satisfying as the real thing. Men are not losing power in the world because onlyfans does not compare to a person giving you physical affection. It doesn’t make physical spaces irrelevant.
Women have definitely gained leverage with onlyfans, but only monetarily.
Bell Hooks’ premise falls apart knowing that existence encompasses more than just sexual dynamics. The existential crisis comes for everyone and not just men. This is because it speaks to our reason for being alive. Our existence is certainly not just for sexual appeal alone. We are not sex machines.
There is an issue with loneliness and lack of intimacy, but that applies to both genders. Yes, onlyfans gives that parasocial endorphin rush that fills in that need superficially. Onlyfans does not signify that men are not intrinsically valued or not sexually valued by appearance. Our sexuality was never defined by our desire for women or our male gaze. Women are certainly not just valued for their appearance, as much as it seems that way. Women dominating onlyfans is because women have explored their sexual identity
Men not having beauty by just existing is a false narrative. Men are certainly attractive to a lot of people. They have sexual attraction they can sell. Men can certainly make an onlyfans and create revenue. They can become just as prominent as women, but only when they cater to how women are satisfied erotically. It’s just a gap in the market.
The reason this gap exists is because men haven’t explored their sexual identity as well as women have. This all comes down to cultural upbringings of men. Erotic attraction is thought to only belong to women. That boundary is a socially constructed one. Men suppressing emotions to meet society’s standards stops us from discovering our sexual identity. Once a man can accept their erotic attractiveness through an exploration of their emotions and values can they show their sexual attraction and sell it if they want to.
I’ve said this in another comment but it bears repeating, Every person just existing has value.
Onlyfans does offer a simulation of being chosen, but in the real world people are chosen because of their values not their sexual appeal.